The One-Minute Intimacy Quiz

For each statement, give yourself:

2 points if you’re nodding along thinking “Yep, that’s me!”

1 point if you’re shaking your head like “Nah, not really.”

1. By bedtime, I’m usually more interested in my pillow than my partner.
2. Sex is normally saved for a nighttime activity
3. Generally, I am too stressed for sex.
4. Often I use my phone, television or another electronic device to help me fall asleep.
5. Sex outside the bedroom is unusual.
6. Romance takes too much energy. 
7. Planning romantic gestures feels like a chore.
8. Our go-to position is ‘whatever requires the least effort’.
9. Most of the time, I’d rather sleep than have sex.
10. Sex is pretty much a once a week (or less) kind of thing. 

Your intimacy score

16-20 Points: The “Is This Thing On?” Zone

Life’s demands are taking a toll on your intimate life. But don’t worry, we’ve all been there.  Remember, self-care and connection with your partner are important for overall well-being. Consider having an open conversation with your partner about balancing responsibilities and intimacy.

11-15 Points: The “Simmering But Not Quite Boiling” Zone

You’re maintaining some balance, but there’s room for improvement. Small gestures and moments of connection can make a big difference.

10 or less: The “Still Got It” Zone

You’re keeping things spicy despite the chaos of family life. Go you! You’re prioritising intimacy despite life’s challenges. Share these results with your partner and give yourself a pat on the back (or wherever else you fancy).

Embracing  quick connections

Quality over quantity is key. Lengthy sessions are great and all, but they’re not always practical when you’ve got a house full of tiny humans with radar-like hearing.

In those scenarios, even brief intimate moments can strengthen your relationship. Don’t underestimate the power of a loving touch, a passionate kiss, or a few minutes of undivided attention.

Spicing things up: Your 5-minute action plan

1. Schedule ‘us time’, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day.
2. Try the “10-second kiss” rule. It’s amazing what 10 seconds of undivided attention can do.
3. Practice open communication about your needs and desires.
4. Focus on non-sexual physical affection too.
5. Play “intimacy roulette” – write down fun, intimate activities and pick one at random each week.

When you need a little extra help

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, things just aren’t clicking in the bedroom. And that’s okay. It happens to the best of us. If your partner is facing some challenges:

• Trouble maintaining an erection? Our partners at Mosh offer discreet online consultations for erectile dysfunction treatment if your partner needs it. No awkward waiting rooms, just help when they need it.
• Things finishing faster than a toddler’s attention span? Mosh also has solutions for premature ejaculation. Because sometimes, slow and steady does win the race.

Remember, seeking help isn’t admitting defeat – it’s a power move that shows you’re committed to keeping your relationship healthy and happy.

Intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship. By making it a priority, you’re investing in your overall well-being and happiness as a couple.

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