R U OK? 4 mums talk about the importance of mental health

In light of R U OK Day, an annual day dedicated to remind people to ask ‘R U OK?’, we’ve reached out to three brave mums from our community.
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As mums, we tend to put the needs of everybody else before ourselves. But sometimes, we NEED to put ourselves on top of the list for once.

In light of R U OK Day today, which is an annual day dedicated to remind people to ask family, friends and colleagues ‘R U OK?’, we’ve reached out to four brave mums from our Healthy Mummy community.

These mums have all not been feeling there best at some point and have kindly shared with what helped them stay connected, supported and in control.

Here’s what they had to say…

Mums share how they manage their mental health

1. Brittany Carter used breathing techniques to help calm her thoughts


Brittany suffered heavily from postnatal depression after the birth of her now two year old.

“At first it was really hard to admit because nobody wants to say they cant bond properly with their child or that they don’t want to be in that situation anymore and my biggest thing I tell people looking back is that it isn’t as uncommon as we think,” she says.

“There are millions of mums with the same struggles so talk up and ask for help because there is so much love and support.”

On her worst days, Brittany says her brain would “play tricks on her”, until one day she woke up feeling totally “possessed” by horrible thoughts about herself and no longer felt like her.

What Brittany didn’t realise at the time was that she wasn’t the only person to feel these thoughts. When she found the courage to open up and talk about her feelings, that’s when she realised…she does in fact have the strength to change these negative thoughts. 

“I never knew how common this was either until I talked about it. Breathing techniques and yoga really helped centre myself here,” she adds.

“I had no care for my appearance, no self-care or self-worth and that was the biggest thing I needed to retrain myself to do. To take time for me. Paint my nails, dye my hair, do my makeup and to take care of me. 

“Ultimately, I am still medicated but with healthy eating and weight loss i’ve really been able to turn my thought process around to become a better mum and person.”

Brittany says she’s learning about herself as a person and doesn’t beat herself up for feeling how she did.

“I now love learning about myself as a mum, it brings me so much joy. It just took extra time,” she says.

“There’s definitely a great big sparkling light at the end of a very dark tunnel but just know you aren’t alone and that there is so much help around!”


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2. Christie Plumridge credits eating well and exercising


Christie reveals she knew something wasn’t right when she struggled to bond with her girls.

“At 21 after I had my first baby girl nothing felt like I thought it would, people told me to expect this overwhelming love at first sight for this tiny human but I felt nothing at all,” she says.

Sadly, Christie was eventually diagnosed with severe postnatal depression which would later be diagnosed as bipolar disorder.

“I was placed on medication and both my pregnancies afterwards I had an amazing support network and a complete mental health care plan but still just felt like something wasn’t right. I struggled to bond with my girls and didn’t want to spend time with them.”

 Christie says it wasn’t until her fourth daughter that she realised she needed to make a lifestyle change.

“I was on medication until I had my fourth daughter at age 32 and although I had had mental health care and medication I really didn’t know how to look after myself as well as my children,” she says.

“I didn’t eat well and hated exercise so I just put everything in to looking after my girls and always put me last. 

“I started searching for ways to help mental health issues and diet and exercise kept popping up. I was already feeling so down and out about my weight and mental health so when The Healthy Mummy popped up I just knew this was going to be a lifestyle change for the better.”


Christie says she started with following the 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge meal plan. She incorporated the Challenge exercises into her daily routine later on.

Following the Challenge, Christie lost 17 kilograms in 5 months. What’s more, she says she started to feel well enough to come off her medication, under her doctors supervision.

She was medication-free from November 2015 to January 2017.

“I stopped following the plans after a family tragedy and my mental health was really affected, so once again I started following the Challenge meal plans and exercises, and once again I came off the medication.

“I have learnt so much about my physical and mental health and not only do I benefit but my family and my girls do too!”

3. Laura Flanagan went straight to her healthcare professional for help


Laura says mums who are feeling down shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help.

“The biggest tip to looking after yourself when struggling with any form of mental illness is to go talk to a gp, don’t be afraid to ask for help,” she says.

“Don’t feel like a failure if exercise or healthy eating doesn’t ‘fix’ you. Going on medication helped me through postnatal depression and anxiety.”

Laura reveals the concept of medication terrified but it helped her feel better.

“Exercise and healthy eating play a great role in staying mentally strong when you’re not broken to begin with, it also plays a great role when you are getting proper help,” she says.

“It isn’t always a magic fix though and sometimes you need medical help and there is no shame in that at all.”

4. Rebecca Garofoletti leaned on The Healthy Mummy community for support


Rebecca says after giving birth to her daughter she suffered post-natal anxiety and it effected every aspect of her life.

“I refused to leave the house, I literally felt trapped by my emotions,” she admits.

“It was only when my child health nurse asked me how I was going finally one day I decided to open up about my struggle with anxiety which was a flow of effect from a difficult journey to conceive through IVF and a traumatic birth.”

Rebecca received help and they taught me methods for de-stressing.

“When I again suffered anxiety, perinatal anxiety throughout my second pregnancy, I saw the signs straight away that I was going down the rabbit hole,” she says.

“Deep meditative music and concentrating on the healthy baby in my belly and the positive things happening in my life and simply breathing grounded me and pulled the reigns back in. During my postnatal period in the last 10 months since the birth of my son I am pleased to say I haven’t had a resurgence of my postnatal anxiety.”

Rebecca reveals she relied on the support from The Healthy Mummy community to get her through. 

“The difference for me this time was that I had The Healthy Mummy community on my side and the right tools,” she says.

“The 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge took away the stress of meal planning and eating healthy which was a major trigger for me and exercising has kept my head clear and focused.

“It’s so important to find a small amount of time for yourself every day to find your centre and keep yourself grounded. If you do not look after yourself, it’s impossible to look after those around you.

Mums share that’s it’s ok to not be ok and some self-care tips

Some of the mums in our Healthy Mummy community shared how they have struggled with their mental health, and things they do to look after themselves.

Here’s what they had to say…

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1. Melanie Phillips

“I know exactly what it’s like to not be ok.

I’ve been at rock bottom.

I’ve been that person who couldn’t find the joy in anything.

I’ve been the mum who couldn’t find the strength to get out of bed.

But thankfully I have an amazing support network around me who urged me to get help, who supported me through my toughest period ever and never once judged me.

It’s ok to not be ok, but it’s not ok to suffer in silence.

Reach out, you’re not weak for seeking help.

We are all in this together”

2. Bec Ashforth

“R U OK?

One thing I love about The Healthy Mummy is the community, are you ok, its ok if you are not ok reach out and we will hear you,being a mummy is a big job and sometimes hard and isolating,we all need a village and human contact. Please know there is always someone to hear you there are some links below to check out as well.

Did you know?

  • Approximately 8 people die by suicide every day in Australia.
  • Every one of these lives lost represents someone’s partner, child, parent, friend or workmate.
  • For every death, it’s estimated at least another 30 attempt to end their own life.
  • It doesn’t discriminate. Suicide occurs across demographics.
  • Take a moment to ask today and every day R U OK you may save a life.

Some tools I like to use for mental health are, taking time out for me,planning and going on holidays also my SKIN range and last but not least meditation on the app. Not only do these activities make me feel good,they remind me I am important I am worth the time these things take,they allow me to fill my jug so I can continue to fill my family’s glasses. Each and every day. Lean on your family and friends if you need to that is what we are there for. Just ask for help. Xox”

3. Nicole Deakes Brown

“R U OK day is TODAY.

I have suffered Postnatal Depression.

I am currently suffering PTSD, anxiety and depression and let me tell you it’s damn hard at times.

I use to be embarrassed to suffer from these, ask ‘why me’ and ‘what did I do to deserve this’.

I often put on a brave face, especially for my girls, I pretend everything is ok until its not and I fall in a heap.

I’m thankful for my beautiful girls, my family and friends who give me so much support.

I see a psychologist who also helps me through my struggles.

How are you all doing?

How are your family and friends?

I know how hard it is yo reach out and ask for help but once I was ready it was the best decision I made.

Some days are sooo hard that I dont want to get out of bed.

Try and take some time out for you today, you may just go for a walk, pop a face mask on, do some meditation using the Mind, Body, Breath on the app

Let’s focus on Mental Health today.”

4. Julia Meadows‎

“As someone who has suffered from depression for over 7 years now this one is close to my heart.

It took me a very long time to even realise what was going on. I thought it’s just called being a new mum until I couldn’t go on any longer and finally reached out for help.

Still to this day do I battle my inner demons daily and they do get the better of me sometimes.

Looking after your mental health is so very important and priority number one.

Please make sure you are ok and ask for help if you feel like you need it.”

5. Christine Hamann

“Today is R U Ok day? So let me ask you, R U OK? Like really ok? If you aren’t that is ok but let’s talk about it.

R U OK day means so much to me and my family especially my 15 year old daughter.

Exactly 6 months ago today one of her friends committed suicide. I also classed her as one of my daughter’s and would do anything for her. She was over at our house and was so happy, I honestly didn’t see any signs and even to this day, I still look back and wonder if I missed something anything.

We dropped her back off at her house later that night and about 8 hours later I get a phone call that even now I remember it so clearly. Her sister found her in the morning and she had done something that I thought I would never have to deal with or my 15 year old would ever have to deal with in her life. My daughter is still heartbroken and she cries all the time.

I worry about her all the time now and don’t like her out of my sight as I am so scared that something will happen to her. We talk all the time we have an amazing relationship but it is still so scary.

We don’t know why she did what she did as honestly she had everything in life going for her (or so we thought), But clearly there was something underlying that was going on that she didnt feel she could talk to anyone about.

Please please please if you are feeling in any way that you cant cope PLEASE reach out to someone, anyone because I understand that you are hurting but what you leave behind is so much pain and hurt as well. I am here always if anyone ever wants to talk.”

Thank you to all these beautiful and brave ladies for sharing their story with us, we love you all!

Where to get help

If you feel depressed or are suffering from depression and or anxiety, we advise you to seek help from your GP or call Lifeline 13 11 14, Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia [PANDA] 1300 726 306 or Beyond Blue 1300 22 46 36.

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