Youngest midwife ever?!
This mum had the assistance of her three-year-old daughter while she was giving birth to her son.
Rebecca Joseloff wanted to have her daughter Hunter present through her home birth but the tot didn’t just get to witness her baby brother enter the world, she also actively assisted in the birth.
Often clients ask me my thoughts on having children present at a birth. My answer is usually yes. Hunters parents prepared her so well for this experience. They discussed anatomy in proper terms. She knew the words “placenta” and she wasn’t afraid of the blood she saw. She didn’t cower when her mother roared her brother out and she didn’t get nervous or concerned about it at all. She asked questions, she played with her babies, she ate snacks, and she kept us all entertained with her adorableness. She held her brothers head as he crowned, she cheered her mom on as she pushed him out, she rubbed her mothers hair so gently as they both gazed lovingly at this new tiny life in front of them. I said “Hunter, do you want to take your shirt off and hold your brother?” Without hesitation she began to take her shirt off but she did ask me why she was taking her shirt off. I replied “brand new babies love the feeling of your skin and you will love it too.” She was in heaven and didn’t want to give him back to his mom. She held him with the biggest smile as he bobbed his head around looking for a breast. She giggled as we told her he wanted to nurse. Birth is the most normal part of life; share it with your children and teach them from the beginning that birth is nothing to fear. Birth is strength. #birthphoto #birthbecomesher #doulalife #longislandmoms #longislandphotographer #birthwithoutfear #siblings #longislandborn #birthphotography #birthphotogs
This cute three-year-old helped her mum deliver her baby brother!
Rebecca’s doula and birth photographer, Nicole Lahey who has website Read Set Chaos, took these beautiful snaps which have since gone viral worldwide.
The mum-of-two from New York says Hunter stroked her hair and even held her brother’s head as he crowned.
“Kids perceive things in the way adults react to it, so if birth is not made out to be scary or traumatic or what not, kids are not going to think that it is,” Rebecca tells Café Mom.
“Birth is such a natural part of life and such an awesome moment, especially for a brother or sister to be there when their sibling is born; it really makes such an awesome connection for them for the rest of their lives.”
This will be dubbed the famous couch. She will always remember how she birthed her son safely in their home while her daughter, Hunter, was the first person to touch his head as he crowned. I will be blogging this entire family centered birth story soon as it’s too good not to share. #birthday #birthphoto #birthworker #birthdoula #longislandphotographer #longislandmoms #doulalife #birthbecomesher #birthphoto
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Children present at birth
Meanwhile, Nicole agrees that it’s a beautiful experience to have your children present while their siblings are being born.
“Often, clients ask me my thoughts on having children present, at a birth. My answer is usually, ‘Yes’. Hunter’s parents prepared her so well for this experience,” she wrote in a Facebook post.
“They discussed anatomy in proper terms. She knew the word ‘placenta’, and she wasn’t afraid of the blood she saw.
“She didn’t cower when her mother roared her brother out and she didn’t get nervous or concerned about it, at all… She held her brother’s head as he crowned, she cheered her mom on as she pushed him out, she rubbed her mother’s hair so gently; as they both gazed lovingly at this new tiny life in front of them.
“Birth is the most normal part of life; share it with your children and teach them from the beginning, that birth is nothing to fear. Birth is strength.”
What an adorable story! How special for Hunter to be there at the birth of her little brother.
Thanks Rebecca and Nicole for giving us permission to share your story.
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