Non-Sexual Things Women Do That Turn Men On!

Have you ever wondered what subtle things you do or wear that might be unknowingly driving your man wild? Usually, when we think about what is going to turn a man on we think of grand gestures and overt flirtation, but often it’s the everyday, sometimes unnoticed actions or behaviours that can truly ignite passion.

As relationship expert and sexologist Isiah McKimmie exclusively tells The Healthy Mummy. “It’s often surprising to hear the things that turn people on, often they’re not related to sex at all.” 

“We’re not entirely sure what leads to people being turned on by certain things, but utilising these during sexual play can add intimacy and excitement. It also makes a great case for just being yourself and not putting on a performance for anyone – you never know what someone will find attractive.“

Study reveals surprising turn-ons

A study by Superdrug’s Online Doctor called ‘Atypical Arousal’ revealed the unexpected things that both men and women find sexually attractive.

The results were eye-opening, revealing that simple acts can have a profound impact on arousal.

For men, the most common non-sexual turn-on was the scent of a woman’s perfume. This could be due to the association of certain fragrances with pleasant memories or the simple fact that a unique scent can be incredibly alluring.

Other surprising findings included:

• Ponytails and stretching: These actions can be seen as playful and youthful, evoking a sense of fun and vitality.
• Wearing a maid uniform: This might seem unusual, but it could be attributed to the fantasy of domesticity or the power dynamics associated with the role.
• Glasses: There’s a certain intellectual allure to glasses, and they can also create a mysterious, enigmatic vibe.
• Foreign accents: The exoticism and mystery of a foreign accent can be incredibly captivating.

Stranger things like wearing a choker necklace (number 10) and wearing socks (number 14) also bizarrely made the list. (Maybe these men were just always turned on?)

The top 14 non-sexual things men find attractive

1. The smell of perfume
2. Someone wearing a maid uniform
3. Someone wearing a school uniform
4. Hearing a foreign accent
5. Someone with a ponytail
6. Someone with pigtails
7. Someone wearing glasses
8. Someone stretching
9. Someone wearing a medical uniform
10. Someone wearing a choker necklace
11. Hearing a foreign language
12. Someone wearing a suit
13. Someone wearing a police uniform
14. Someone wearing socks

In a similar study by Women’s Health UK, it was found that men were attracted to things like earlobes, women wearing no makeup and even sneezing! (Who would’ve known!)

Beyond the obvious

While these findings might seem a bit unconventional, they highlight the importance of embracing individuality and authenticity in relationships. Sometimes, the most unexpected things can be the most sexually exciting.

What gets women aroused?

On the flip side, Superdrug researchers also asked women what non-sexual things about men turned them on.

For women, the study revealed that the smell of a man’s cologne, suits, and forei- gn accents were particularly appealing. These elements can create a sense of sophistication, confidence, and mystery.

Additional turn-ons for women included:

• Holding a baby: This can evoke feelings of tenderness, protectiveness, and paternal instinct.
• Beards: Beards can convey a sense of masculinity and ruggedness.

The top 14 non-sexual things women find attractive

1. The smell of cologne
2. Someone wearing a suit
3. Hearing a foreign accents
4. Someone with a beard
5. Someone wearing a military uniform
6. The smell of perfume
7. Hearing a foreign language
8. Someone wearing a police uniform
9. Someone reading
10. Someone wearing glasses
11. Someone playing with a dog
12. Someone wearing a medical uniform
13. Someone stretching
14. Someone holding a baby

*Source: Superdrug

The power of non-verbal communication

Remember, body language also plays a crucial role in attraction. As relationship expert Iona, who runs 30 Ever After, tells us, “There is a lot of research that says over 50% of communication is non-verbal. What we need to pay attention to is body language because it can be a turn on (and turn off for men).” 

“Subtle things like body language i.e. keep your arms unfolded, leaning in, mirroring the other person’s body language, wetting your lips…all these non-verbal cues create attraction.”

“Red lipstick is also another non-sexual thing that turns men on. Though some find red lipstick to be messy, most think it’s incredibly sexy on a woman.”

So, the next time you’re with your partner, try experimenting with some of these non-sexual turn-ons. You might be surprised at how they can elevate your relationship and ignite passion in unexpected ways.

Keeping the spark alive

Now that you’ve discovered some surprising ways that you may turn each other on, what if there’s something else affecting your intimacy?

Does your partner go from turned on to all done too quickly? Reaching climax during intimacy is a common concern for many couples, and it can leave both partners feeling frustrated and unsatisfied.

Here at The Healthy Mummy, we understand that a fulfilling sex life is a key part of a happy relationship. That’s why we recommend checking out our partners at Mosh for even more information. If your partner is finishing too quickly for your liking, you can find out more about how to help him with premature ejaculation treatments options or learn more about ‘pills to last longer in bed‘ that could help him.

Mosh connects men with Australian doctors who can discreetly assess your partners’ situation and offer solutions tailored to your needs. Mosh can help you achieve a more satisfying sexual experience for you and your partner. Remember, a healthy sex life is a vital part of a healthy relationship, and you don’t have to struggle alone.

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