Mental Health

Self-sabotage: How to find out if you’re doing it and how to stop.

Does it feel like you’re restricting yourself on a diet, exercising and living healthy but you’re not seeing any progress? You could be self-sabotaging your efforts without realising it.

Here’s how to recognise if you are.

Do any of these statements sound familiar to you?

  • You stay on track for a while but over time revert back to your old unhealthy lifestyle.
  • You know what needs to be done but you can’t seem to achieve any progress.
  • You have worked out and eaten right for the last few days so you indulge in treat meals for the rest of the week.

If you’ve answered yes to one or more of these, chances are you are self-sabotaging your own attempts at health.

Success in weight loss rarely just depends on eating right and exercising. It’s also dependent on your mindset, habits and mental health. Exercising will not fix your emotional eating. Restrictive diets will not change your lack of motivation.

Quite often we get off track due to the fact that there is an inner conflict with our desire to achieve better and the physical motivation to do so, which leads to lack of consistency and thus progress.

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3 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging

1) Put Pen To Paper

When we write down our thoughts, fears and anxieties, they somehow seem smaller than when they were in our heads. So list four or five reasons why you think your life will be worse than it is now if you achieve your goals.

You will soon see the fact that you have been fearful of losing weight due to false rationalisations. Once you identify what these fears are you can work through them.

2) Challenge your fear

Try to poke holes in your logic and your false rationalisation so you can diminish their control over you. You can do this by talking to your partner for some objectivity or share your thoughts in The Healthy Mummy’s Facebook groups, where other women have been where you are.

3) Reassess your reasons for a healthier life

Consciously reassess your reasons for a healthier life, making sure you are identifying and dealing with the reasons for your fear.

You have all the resources, support and knowledge to set you on your weight loss journey but you find you are still not making visible progress. This lack of progress more often than not boils down to a lack of consistency, which is created by self-sabotaging behaviour.   

The 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge is the perfect opportunity to start 2019 off to a healthy, happier you. Thousands of women have lost weight and are now seeing an improvement in their overall wellbeing. Be one of them today!

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written by:

Shara Smith

Shara is a psychotherapist and a counsellor, who has over 12 years experience in the mental health, life coaching and self-care sector. While she loves her husband and three kids, she also loves watching re-runs of Sex in the City and baking decadent cookies that only she gets to eat.