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6 commonly asked questions about sex after having a baby

If you’ve recently had a baby you’re probably crossing your legs and screwing up your face at just the thought of having sex. Or you could be ready to get back on the horse, so to speak. Sex and intimacy after having a baby is different for everyone and there is no right or wrong thing to do, but if you’ve got some questions you are not alone.

6 Commonly Asked Questions About Sex After Having A Baby

1. How long do I have to wait before we can resume our normal sex life?

Once you’ve had a baby you are booked in for a six-week check-up to make sure that everything down yonder is recovering and in good health. Most GPs suggest you wait until after this postnatal checkout, however it might pay to ask them if you aren’t sure, especially if you’ve torn badly and have needed stitches.

Hint: If you’re too embarrassed to ask during your appointment, maybe get your husband or partner to ask or make a phone call when you get home!

2. Will I damage myself or tear again if I have sex so quickly after giving birth?

If you’ve had an episiotomy or a tear there might be discomfort for a few months which will probably be exacerbated during intercourse. Many doctors suggest lubricating jelly for a sensitive perineal area and remember if you’re really worried about it and not enjoying sex then maybe it’s too soon for you.

3. What can we do in the meantime?

Well it’s not up to us to give you bedroom advice, you’ve probably got that part sorted considering you’ve had a baby, but bringing back intimacy into a relationship after you’ve given birth is a good idea. You’re probably both exhausted and stress levels might be high, don’t force or rush the issue, you can’t go past a good old-fashioned cuddle and kiss in bed – you never know what it might lead to! sex in the third trimester

4. I’m breastfeeding so will I leak everywhere when we’re intimate?

For the first few weeks your supply might be quite big so the chances of leaking are likely, but if you’ve both decided on breastfeeding then what’s a little milk between friends? However, if your breasts are tender suggest other areas that might be less sensitive to the touch.

5. My partner is passive/aggressively pressuring me to have sex, what should I do?

It’s a tough one because quite honestly it’s YOUR body that has just gone through lots of changes. They might think that your stomach has gone down and all things are back to normal, which usually isn’t the case. Swelling lasts for weeks sometimes months and scars tend to take awhile to heal, especially for new mums who are often sleep deprived. Maybe you can suggest alternatives to intercourse, of which there are many, or so we’ve heard!

6. How do I know if things are back to normal down there?

Regardless of how you gave birth, the fact is it will probably never be the same down there ever again. But don’t be sad because you’ve got a baby and there are ways to help, the most importantly being doing your pelvic floors. Sure everyone bleats on about this but it’s true.

However, many obstetricians will tell you that sometimes all the pelvic floors exercises in the world won’t return things back to normal. If you’re concerned about how things are recovering do not waste time and visit your GP.

Try our Post Pregnancy Exercise DVD

For the ULTIMATE SAFE, EFFECTIVE & TRUSTED Post Pregnancy Workout – see our EXPERT Post Pregnancy Exercise DVD.

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The DVD can be followed by all mums (for example new mums or mums with older children) and can be followed by someone with a basic or a more advanced level of fitness.

Lisa Westlake is our incredible fitness instructor and postnatal exercise specialist throughout the DVD. With her extensive physiotherapy experience and qualifications (Lisa is one of the most awarded fitness professionals in Australia), Lisa is the perfect fitness instructor to bring The Healthy Mummy Post Pregnancy Exercise DVD to life – you will love working out with her.

The exercises in The Healthy Mummy Post Pregnancy Exercise DVD are effective and safe and Lisa will guide you through each of the workouts. As well as assisting in the improvement of your overall fitness levels, the workouts in the DVD will also help in the burning of calories, the improvement of your core strength and the strengthening of your pelvic floor.

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We also have our 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge which has modified exercises for mums with pelvic floor issues or muscle separation.

Our 28 Day Weight Loss Challenge includes:
  • 28 days of at home exercise routines (no gym needed) – with video instruction
  • Customisable and breastfeeding friendly meal plans
  • Time-efficient exercises for busy mums – under 30 mins
  • Challenge combines Pilates exercises with interval and circuit training (HIIT)
  • Suitable for basic to advanced fitness levels
  • Home to thousands of EASY-TO-MAKE recipes!

You can check out the challenge here – 28 Day Weight Loss Challenges

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Emily Toxward

When former journalist Emily Toxward isn’t wrangling her three kids she’s juggling the demands writing and failing fabulously at being a domestic goddess. A published writer for nearly 20 years, Emily left full-time work in 2008 to have children and write from home. Always on the go, she spends her days negotiating with an army of little people she created and visits her local Gold Coast beaches for a little sanity.

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