8 things NOT to say to a mum pregnant with her third child

I can’t help but note that once you begin having children, other humans feel it necessary to ask questions, make comments, critique and compliment. Being the mother of three children I have heard it all.

I especially noticed that when I was pregnant with my third, I became public property for some time for personal, and often extremely ludicrous questions!

8 Things NOT To Say To A Mum Pregnant With Her Third Child

It seems that the more kids you have, the worse it becomes. Here are just a few of my ‘favourite’ one-liners and questions.

What not to say to a pregnant mum

1. “Don’t you know what causes it?”

I do actually and quite frankly you are the last person I wish to be discussing my sex life with!

 2. “You are going to be outnumbered”

Well you don’t say! We have done the math and did realised this, long before you. I’m sure that come feeding time the zoo we will feel them joining forces and taking control.

Yet they will realise that if they want to eat they will have to relinquish power. I’m sure that we will have things under control. At least 90 per cent of the time!

3. “Don’t you remember the sleepless nights?”

With one child with insomnia, the other with reflux we haven’t actually slept in the past four years. So no, we haven’t forgotten about the sleepless nights.

We are still elbow deep in sleep deprivation and crappy nappies. You think a little more lost sleep will phase us? We have this covered!

4. “You’ve got your hands full”

No kidding lady!

But I can catch my son from falling backwards in to a glass window, while spoon feeding my son and kicking the cat off the couch. All the while not spilling my wine… I’m a mother, I’ve got this.

5. “You must be exhausted”

What gave it away? The bags under my eyes? My dishevelled hair, puke-covered clothes or lack of overall image maintenance? I am eyes falling out of my head, fall asleep walking, slur my words exhausted! But each day I have multiple angels who fill my heart with love and joy and pride so the exhaustion is worth it.

what not to say to a mum pregnant with 3

6. “Are you happy?”

That I’m pregnant?

Are you happy you are alive?

Go away.

7. “On purpose?”

Well, I don’t know. Did you wake up today and decide to be rude on purpose? Really, it isn’t really important at this stage, is it? I am pregnant and I am choosing to have a baby, on purpose.

So how this baby came to be is of no significance to you. Perhaps a congratulations would be a good place to start? (and finish).

8. “Sucked in”

Another child may not be for you. It may not suit your lifestyle. But this is a choice we have made and we are happy about and there really is no punishment in it.

The best thing you can say?

CONGRATULATIONS! You must be so excited and another little friend for your kids. How wonderful!

About The Pregnancy Smoothie

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The Healthy Mummy Pregnancy Smoothie is a convenient and easy supplementary food, designed to complement your existing pregnancy vitamins or supplements, to help you meet the extra protein, vitamin and mineral requirements during your pregnancy.

Please read below for all the information on the smoothie – you can also see the FAQ on the smoothie here.

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How Can The Pregnancy Smoothie Help?

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  • HEALTHY INCREASED CALORIES – Additional nutrients and calories are needed in pregnancy to support the mum and the baby – and the smoothie is a convenient and tasty way to increase your calories in pregnancy whilst nourishing your body.
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  • TIREDNESS – If you are feeling exhausted, the smoothie is a nutrient dense snack high in protein, B vitamins and low constipation iron to help keep energy levels up.
  • CONVENIENT- if you are struggling to find the time or energy to eat nutrient dense and healthy foods then the smoothie will be a great help. You could also have it as a quick breakfast by adding fruit, oats and vegetables to your smoothie to further increase calories.
  • PROTEIN & CALCIUM – It is ideal as a high-protein, high-calcium snack in pregnancy with each smoothie giving you 30% of your protein needs

Key Nutrients Needed For Pregnancy

The Healthy Mummy Pregnancy Smoothie provides a Good Source of Vitamins & Minerals – providing extra nutrition, including protein, vitamins & minerals for expectant mums

  • Folate – contributes to maternal tissue growth during pregnancy. Consumption of at least 400mcg† per day, at least one month before & three months following conception may reduce the risk of fetal neural tube defects
  • Vitamin B12 – necessary for normal cell division, neurological structure & function, & contributes to normal blood formation, which are important processes during pregnancy
  • Calcium – necessary for normal teeth, bone structure, important for baby’s development
  • Iodine, Phosphorous, Vitamin D & Vitamin B12 – contribute to normal growth & development, including that of the baby
  • Vitamin C, Vitamin B2, Vitamin B3, Vitamin B6, Vitamin B12, Folate & Iron– contributes to the reduction of tiredness & fatigue, symptoms often experienced by expectant mums
  • Protein – necessary for tissue building & repair, normal growth & development of bone & contributes to the growth of muscle mass
  • Probiotics – contribute to gastrointestinal health & the maintenance of beneficial gastrointestinal microflora, which can benefit pregnant women
  • Fibre – aids in regular bowel motions, which can become irregular during pregnancy.

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written by:

Jessica Black

Jess is a fiercely passionate storyteller who is mad about fitness and wine drinking, usually not at the same time. She’s a freelance writer who juggles being a mummy to three and hospitality work. When she’s not busy tapping away on her keyboard with a smile on her face she’s chasing the kids or jogging on the beach.