NOT having postpartum sex is a sign of a GOOD relationship, says expert

A recent study has highlighted that a decline in sexual activity with your partner post birth is NOT necessarily a sign something is ‘wrong’.
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For many women, there’s a lot of pressure to bounce back physically, and even sexually, after giving birth.

However, a recent study has highlighted that a decline in sexual activity with your partner post birth is NOT necessarily a sign something is ‘wrong’.

In fact, it may be a sign of a good, healthy relationship!

Here’s how…

Having less sex after giving birth is a sign of a healthy relationship

NOT having postpartum sex is a sign of a GOOD relationship, says expert

Researchers at the University of Nebraska’s Department of Psychology and Centre for Brain, Biology and Behaviour conducted a study to look into relationship sex after having kids.

Couples were asked how well they:

  • Cooperated and supported in each other
  • Communicated with each other
  • Responded to each other’s stress
  • Demonstrated intimacy with each other

NOT having postpartum sex is a sign of a GOOD relationship, says expert

It turns out, that when partners were more emotionally intimate, supportive and communicated with one another after birth – they actually had less sex!

What’s more, experts have found women take time to heal after having a baby and BOTH parents take time to adjust to parenthood, so sex isn’t always a priority like it was before.

In fact, research indicates that it can take around a year to catch up to pre-pregnancy sex frequency!

NOT having postpartum sex is a sign of a GOOD relationship, says expert

6 commonly asked questions about sex after having a baby

If you’ve recently had a baby, having sex may be the LAST thing on your mind. Or you could be ready to get back on the horse, so to speak.

Sex and intimacy after having a baby is different for everyone and there is no right or wrong thing to do, but if you’ve got some questions you are not alone.6 Commonly Asked Questions About Sex After Having A Baby

1. How long do I have to wait before we can resume our normal sex life?

Once you’ve had a baby you are booked in for a six-week check-up to make sure that everything down yonder is recovering and in good health.

Most GPs suggest you wait until after this postnatal checkout, however it might pay to ask them if you aren’t sure, especially if you’ve torn badly and have needed stitches.

Hint: If you’re too embarrassed to ask during your appointment, maybe get your husband or partner to ask or make a phone call when you get home!

2. Will I damage myself or tear again if I have sex so quickly after giving birth?

If you’ve had an episiotomy or a tear there might be discomfort for a few months which will probably be exacerbated during intercourse.

Many doctors suggest lubricating jelly for a sensitive perineal area and remember if you’re really worried about it and not enjoying sex then maybe it’s too soon for you.

3. What can we do in the meantime?

Well, it’s not up to us to give you bedroom advice – you’ve probably got that part sorted considering you’ve had a baby, but you may want to bring back some intimacy into a relationship after you’ve given birth.

You’re probably both exhausted and stress levels might be high, don’t force or rush the issue, you can’t go past a good old-fashioned cuddle and kiss in bed – you never know what it might lead to! sex in the third trimester

4. I’m breastfeeding so will I leak everywhere when we’re intimate?

For the first few weeks your supply might be quite big so the chances of leaking are likely, but if you’ve both decided on breastfeeding then what’s a little milk between friends?

However, if your breasts are tender suggest other areas that might be less sensitive to the touch.

5. My partner is pressuring me to have sex, what should I do?

It’s a tough one because quite honestly it’s YOUR body that has just gone through lots of changes.

They might think that your stomach has gone down and all things are back to normal, which usually isn’t the case.

Swelling lasts for weeks sometimes months and scars tend to take awhile to heal, especially for new mums who are often sleep deprived. Maybe you can suggest alternatives to intercourse.

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6. How do I know if things are back to normal down there?

Regardless of how you gave birth, the fact is it will probably never be the same down there ever again.

But don’t be sad because you’ve got a baby and there are ways to help, the most importantly being doing your pelvic floors.

But many obstetricians will tell you that sometimes all the pelvic floors exercises in the world won’t return things back to normal. If you’re concerned about how things are recovering do not waste time and visit your GP.

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