Family bliss? Study reveal the best combination of children to have to be happy

It turns out, having a ‘gentleman’s family’ (a boy and a girl) is not the secret to having a blissful family life.

According to a study by UK parenting website, there is a perfect combo of kids to have a happier family life.

The BEST combo of kids to have – do you agree?

In survey of more than 2,116 parents who had children aged 16 and under. Each family had different combinations of siblings.

Experts based their results on the ease of caring for children dependent on their behaviour, such as who was more likely to help around the house, and who “generally like each other.”

Remarkably, the results showed that having two girls is the best combination. The reasons are because two girls are said to be more well behaved, play nicer together and fight less.

However, mums and dads with four girls turned out to be the least happy with family life overall.

In fact, one in four of those admitting they were not 100 per cent happy with their kids. One in three finding it hard to cope on a daily basis.

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The study found the best combos of having kids to be:

1. Two girls

2. One boy and one girl

3. Two boys

4. Three girls

5. Three boys

6. Four boys

7. Two girls and one boy

8. Two boys and one girl

9. Three boys and one girl

10. Three girls and one boy

11. Two boys and two girls

12. Four girls

Another study reveals the most stressful number of kids in a family

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Meanwhile, a study carried out by has shown that parents of THREE children are the most stressed.

More than 7,000 mothers completed the study and it was found that mums with three kids felt like they were pulling their hair out more than mums with two or less kids.

Having more than three kids isn’t as stressful, apparently

Strangely, mums with four or more children actually reported LOWER stress levels! This may because they have lowered their expectation levels on organisation or tidiness. Having four kids also has its advantages, as each child has a playmate.

The survey found that 60% of mums felt the most stressed over having a limited amount of time they feel they have to do everything their children need.

Interestingly, the same number also revealed they found raising girls more stressful than boys. What’s more, 46% say their husbands or partners cause them more stress than their kids do!

9% also revealed they stress about being fit and feeling attractive.

“You always hear about the mommy wars, but I feel like we’re judging ourselves more harshly than anyone else,” says Jill Smokler, who is a mum of three and author of Motherhood Comes Naturally (And Other Vicious Lies).

“Going from one to two was an easy, breezy transition. Two to three, everything was turned upside down.

“I did not feel like I had it together…just crossing the street and not being able to physically hold all their hands I found tremendously stressful.”

Parents with four or more kids are the happiest, study finds

Another study by Dr Bronwyn Harman, of the psychology and social science school at Edith Cowan University, found  parents with four or more kids are happier. Five being the optimum number!

Her research found that parental happiness directly relates to how much effort has been put into growing the family.

“[The parents] usually say they always wanted a large family, it was planned that way, and it was a lifestyle they’d chosen,” she says.

What’s more, Dr Harman believes in families of four or more kids there is more resilience – as there’s no time for pandering to silliness. There’s more social support within a large family as well as self-esteem – kids from big families are more likely to try new things in fear of being left behind!

However, some mums have pointed out these studies don’t take into account the stress levels of having multiples.

What do you think? Do you agree that the most stress number of kids to have is three?

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