I am getting the mother guilts and I know that is almost a full time job for us mothers, guilt that is, but I can’t help it.
My second daughter is breastfeeding still. She is 9 months now and she is very booby. She is a snack feeder as well so she doesn’t have set, long feeds. She wants it now, and now and oh, how about now?
Don’t get me wrong, I actually do not mind getting my boobs out in public. It really doesn’t phase me so much. I don’t even cover her with a wrap or anything. It is more that I am pretty tired. Actually I am pooped.
I don’t know whether it is because she has been sick on and off for the last 2 months and subsequently wakes up plus 4 times a night. I tell you ladies, your second baby has WAY more sniffles then your first baby. You just can’t seem to fend it off so easily with gooey toddler mits cuddling the baby.
Either way, I have decided to push the use of a bottle, even just for one feed a day. I know I could express, which would be better, but I really don’t have an opportunity to sit there pumping with the girls creating havoc. So this bottle is formula.
Maya has not taken a bottle until only a few weeks ago. I don’t know what it was, but we persisted with two different formulas and two different styles of bottle and now she is content to drink a bottle when Isadora (her older sister) has some milk at night time. They sit together. It is so cute.
But I feel guilty. I recently wrote about our parenting ‘style’ if you call it that. I talked about how I didn’t intend on weaning Maya even until after 12 months of age. Yet things change and they have.
Now Maya takes a full bottle as her evening feed.
My mother has been very supportive of this as when I was a young baby, my brother died and my mother was in hospital and desperately needed me to take a bottle but I wouldn’t.“You never know when you might need it,” she tells me, and because of our family history, I know.
But I feel guilty.
The most important point when weaning is to drop one feed every few days to avoid getting mastitis and to lessen the ‘full’ feeling of your breasts. I am very mindful of this as I have had mastitis many times with both girls.
I also wanted to take this opportunity to mention that although our Healthy Mummy Smoothie range has been known to increase some mother’s milk supply (read here for some stories from real mums), you can still drink the smoothies if you are weaning.
The Healthy Mummy Smoothie Range will not disrupt the weaning of your child.
I wish there was a cure for the mother guilts. Do any of you know of one?