Michelle Obama opens up about IVF and miscarriage: ‘I felt like I failed’

Michelle Obama has opened up about how “lost and alone” she felt after suffering a miscarriage before she and her husband Barack Obama became parents to their daughters.

The former First Lady discusses her miscarriage and IVF in her upcoming memoir, titled Becoming, which is out in Australia.

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Michelle Obama opens up about IVF and miscarriage: ‘The biological clock is real’

“We were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well,” Michelle, 54, writes.

“We had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.”

In her book, Michelle also reveals that she and Barack had to “do IVF” and that’s how her daughters Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17, were conceived.

“The biological clock is real,” Michelle said in an interview with Good Morning America to promote her book. “I realised that when I was 34 or 35 … we had to do IVF.”

Michelle thinks it’s important to talk to young mums about miscarriages

Michelle is now urging women to talk about their miscarriages and pregnancy struggles and support one another.

“I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them. We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken,” she added.

“I think it is the worst thing that we do as women, sit around and not talk about our bodies.

“That’s one of the reasons why I think it’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.”

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Dealing with miscarriage

One in four women loses a baby during pregnancy or birth. 

Losing a baby is a difficult time in a pregnancy journey. Women and their partners need time to grieve. There is no time constraint on grieving and everyone has different coping strategies to deal with this sad time in their lives.

Sids & Kids

Support is provided for anyone for any circumstance that involves the loss of a pregnancy or a child. This includes miscarriage, stillbirth and having to terminate a pregnancy due to medical and genetic illnesses.

24-hour bereavement line 1800 308 307


Also assists families who have experienced the loss of a pregnancy and families who are struggling through IVF attempts.

24-hour telephone support 1300 072 637

If you need support after miscarriage, there’s a host of support available – take a look here.