How To Tell Kids About Santa Without Destroying Their Trust (or Ruining The Joy)

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This year I’ve noticed a lot more talk about Santa, and in particular whether the Santa story is harming our children. It’s something I’ve been thinking more about as my eldest is about to turn six and Santa is well and truly on the radar. So how do we tell kids about santa without destroying their trust or ruining the magic?

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Charity Hutchinson stumbled across some fabulous anonymous advice in her Facebook feed. Not just any advice but “by far the best idea I’ve seen about telling your kids about Santa.”

She loved it so much, she decided to share. Essentially the idea is to transition kids from receiving things from “Santa” to being a “Santa” to others.

A New Tradition

When the kids reach an age where they begin questioning the truth of Santa, it’s time to transition them.

“You sure have grown an awful lot this year. Not only are you taller, but I can see that your heart has grown, too. In fact, your heart has grown so much that I think you are ready to become a Santa Claus.”

I really love the idea that it transitions kids in a way that keeps the magic alive without lying to them or making them feel as if we as parents were deceiving them. It also creates a new tradition that isn’t all about “getting” and is instead about giving. A tradition that they can carry on for years to come.

“Being a Santa isn’t about getting credit, you see. It’s unselfish giving.”

What a fabulous thing to teach our kids. To give unconditionally, particularly to those in need, to those who may seem “undesirable” or to those who have no one else to give to them.

One of the other things I love about this approach to telling kids about Santa is it encourages them to keep the “secret” of Santa to themselves. No one becomes a “Santa” until they are old enough and their heart is ready. Kids therefore don’t spoil it for their friends or siblings.

Are your kids ready to “be” Santa? Would you use this approach to gently reveal the truth?