Study suggests it’s not your fault your mother-in-law dislikes you!

Let’s face it, mothers-in-law have quite the reputation for meddling and being protective of their sons!

If you don’t have a great relationship with your partner’s mum, then don’t worry, it’s probably not your fault you don’t get on!

A recent study has found that mothers tend to have better relationships with their daughter’s spouse rather than with their son’s.

Here’s why…

Study suggests it’s not your fault your mother-in-law dislikes you!
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There’s a reason we don’t tend to get on with our mother-in-laws

The study, which was published in the Evolutionary Psychological Science journal, found that both men and women reported conflict with their mothers-in-law (44%) than with their own mothers (39%).

It seems the reason for this bad blood stems from financial resources and child care.

Experts also suggest that conflicts may be influenced by “genetic conflict” as each person “unconsciously acts in the interest of their genetic kin”.

“This genetic conflict may cause affines (in-laws) to disagree about the distribution of resources and investment, just as we see mothers and fathers disagreeing in these domains,” the authors wrote.

“Our results are consistent with the hypothesis that genetic conflict may underlie negative social interactions that occur in affinal (in-law) relationships.”

MIL have slightly less conflict with their daughter’s spouse than their son’s!

What’s more, experts noted that mothers reported slightly less conflict with their daughter’s spouse (17%) than their son’s spouses (18%).

Another reason for the conflict may be down to women tending to be more critical of or undermining each other as they struggle to be in the same position in the family – a.k.a. the primary woman.

This could mean they both feel threatened by the other.

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Meanwhile, fathers were seen to have the opposite reaction and seem to get on better with their daughters-in-law than with their own daughters!

Researchers believe this may be as a father’s protective instincts are heightened when the daughter enters a new romantic relationship but could lessen over time as the father warms up to his son-in-law.

So the next time you feel your mother-in-law getting on your nerves, try not to bite back – just remember, it’s not you… it’s down to genetics!

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Grannies are more connected and warmer with their grandchildren than their own children!

Meanwhile, in news that doesn’t shock us at all… A new study has found that grandmothers are warmer, more connected and affectionate with their grandchildren than their own offspring!

This could explain why they spoil them and let them get away with basically EVERYTHING!!!

Grandmothers are more connected and affectionate with their grandkids than their own children, study finds!

We all know that the bond between grannies and their grandbabies is a special one, but now science confirms it.

Researchers at Emory University conducted a study examining grand maternal brain function.

Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (MRIs) participants were shown photos of several people: their grandchildren, the children’s parents, unknown children and unknown adults. 

Grandmothers are more connected and affectionate with their grandkids than their own children, study finds!

Grandmothers were shown photos of their grandchildren in the study

The most significant activity in brain areas involved with emotional empathy and movement were while viewing pictures of their grandchildren.

“What really jumps out in the data is the activation in areas of the brain associated with emotional empathy,” professor James Rilling, who lead the study, told the Emory News Centre.

“That suggests that grandmothers are geared toward feeling what their grandchildren are feeling when they interact with them.”

“If their grandchild is smiling, they’re feeling the child’s joy. And if their grandchild is crying, they’re feeling the child’s pain and distress.”

Grandmothers are more connected and affectionate with their grandkids than their own children, study finds!

Grandmothers do also love and empathise with their adult children

However, that doesn’t mean grandmothers don’t also love and empathise with their grown-up children.

When the participants were show snaps of their adult children they also showed significant activation in an area of the brain associated with cognitive empathy.

“Young children have likely evolved traits to be able to manipulate not just the maternal brain, but the grand maternal brain,” adds Rilling.

“An adult child doesn’t have the same cute ‘factor,’ so they may not elicit the same emotional response.”

Grandmothers are more connected and affectionate with their grandkids than their own children, study finds!

The grandparent-grandchild relationship is a strong one

It seems the grandparent-grandchild relationship is less complicated than the parent-child relationship. 

“Many of them [grandparents] also said how nice it is to not be under as much time and financial pressure as they were when raising their children,” adds Rilling.

“They get to enjoy the experience of being a grandmother much more than they did being parents.”

So this explains why kids are spoiled and loaded up on sugar before being sent home from their grandparent’s house!

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