Samantha Cameron, the wife of former British Prime Minister David Cameron, has opened up about losing their first child, Ivan.
‘His Death Overshadows Everything’
The six-year-old, who died shortly before his seventh birthday, suffered with cerebral palsy and Ohtahara syndrome, which is a rare and severe form of epilepsy.
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“Ive dying is such a massive thing that everything else is irrelevant. It just overshadows everything. What goes on in the outside world becomes meaningless,” she told The Times.
“Like anyone else in my situation, I just kept going. You have to deal with it, because you have no choice.”
‘Ivan’s Death Was A Huge Shock’
Samantha reveals that despite knowing Ivan’s situation was grave when he was alive, she and David – who are also parents to Nancy, 13, Arthur, 11, and six-year-old Florence – didn’t feel prepared for his death.
“For the whole time Ive was alive, you were always dealing with life or death situations, but it doesn’t prepare you for when you are actually faced with it. When it happens, it is still a huge shock,” she said.
“From the moment he is born you are living in a situation that is quite surreal and difficult to deal with. It is intense every day, in and out of hospitals. So you become quite used to dealing with situations week after week that are totally different from [those experienced by] anyone else.”
“We have pictures of him all round the house; we go to visit his grave very often,” she added.
“Florence talks about him the whole time as though she knows him, when she never met him. It’s the biggest thing in my life.”
If you have been in a similar situation or are struggling to deal with the loss a child, there is support is out there or see your GP.